I hate structure. I despise waking up to alarm clocks, cringe at the thought of doing the same thing at the same time every day, and whine at routines. But that’s me and my personality, and it’s not what my kids need. Structure is good for the children and it can be very important for homeschooling success.
Through our whole conversation he navigates his iphone like a madman with only seconds to live. He types so fast, his fingers moving over the keys at such a rate, you feel the draft off the speed. He was playing a game and texting, simultaneously. [ I have trouble keeping up with one bingo card.] He said he was waiting on friends who were in seeing their advisors.
If we carefully analyze ourselves, we discover that a constant state conflict exists within us: what we want to be and what we actually are. We are poor and we want to be millionaires, we are soldiers and we want to be generals, we are single and want to be married, we are employees and we want to be managers, etc. The state of contradiction engenders conflict, pain, moral misery, absurd actions, violence, gossip, jealousy, hatred, and prejudice, etc. Shall I do this? Or that, or the other? how? when? etc. Mental contradiction creates conflicts and frustrates the solution of problems. This state of conflict can never bring us peace. A person without peace can never solve their problems.
Inattention in the classroom or at home may be due to ADD/ADHD, but it may also be due to an auditory processing difficulty or a visual processing difficulty. There are many similarities between ADD/ADHD, auditory processing difficulties and visual processing difficulties. There are a variety of remedies for each of these difficulties.
Many students are now learning “new math” and are hopefully finding long division a bit more logical than I did as a 9 year-old. Back then, however, we just learned a series of “random” steps that seemed meaningless to me. I was horribly confused and totally overwhelmed. I felt stupid and felt like the end of my world was directly in front of me because I was NEVER going to “get it!” Gallons of tears were shed over my RS Aggarwal Quantitative Aptitude PDF that year!
Fortunately, however, I have grown quite a bit since 4th grade and I have learned that those moments are just that…moments. They don’t last forever and there is ALWAYS a solution. Once I vented my frustration with a few tears, drank a tall glass of water, and took long nap, I was able to look at the situation with a fresh perspective. Every time my mind wanted to say, “I’m so overwhelmed!” I would say, “I’m so overwhelmed, BUT I know I can figure out a solution.” Sure enough, I eventually figured out a couple of options and immediately began to feel better!
It is also a good idea to take a change of clothes with you. They may have called you in for PE that morning, but by the time you arrive, they have decided you will be in a Literature class (and sweats just won’t do). Take it in stride and be ready for changes in assignment and schedule (and the occasional fire drill).
While these issues may affect you to varying degrees, I have one more tip to share; it’s my secret weapon. When my kids were having trouble staying on track, I created a homeschool game. I made a deck of cards for each subject with my printer and colored cardstock. On each card was three assignment options, each with a different value attached to it. The child could move ahead on the generic game board the number of spaces that corresponded to the assignment they chose. It was wildly successful and they still beg for it today. A little creativity can go a long way. We hope that these suggestions help you to keep peace in your loving homeschool family.